Post-breakup blues are common. Take matters into your own hands, get control and get your life back together as quickly as possible. As hard as it is and as traumatic as a breakup can be, you can move forward into the life you want.
Analyzing what went wrong with the relationship can help you avoid making the same mistakes again. Learning from your past and work toward self-improvement is a good goal, avoid the things that are self-destructive that will make it impossible to have another relationship.
You don’t want to continue to make the same mistakes that you made in your last relationship, as difficult as this is, make yourself think about what went wrong. If you don’t take the time to figure it out, there is a good chance that you will make the same mistakes as before.
And if you haven’t identified what went wrong and how you contributed to the problem; then perhaps you haven’t done self-evaluation and enough work on yourself. Avoid self-destructive behaviors after a breakup that make it impossible to have another relationship.
Take the time to figure out:
– What do you want?
– What did you do that didn’t work?
– Why did the relationship fail?
Next, avoid doing these things after your breakup:
– Don’t isolate yourself from your friends and family. Get out there and keep on living.
– Don’t take off on a trip. Wait a few months until you have healed a little, and you are emotionally stable. This way you can enjoy the trip more.
– Keep negative remarks about your ex-private. This way they won’t haunt you in the future.
– Make sure the relationship is over before you make a status change on social media. If you find yourself posting a new relationship immediately after your breakup, make sure, you know what a relationship really means.
– Learn to talk about other topics. Going on and on and on and on and on and on about your breakup will get tiresome to your friends. Respect their time and feelings and ask about their lives. Remember, give and take in all aspects of your life is a good thing.
– Don’t blow your budget. Facing a huge bill during a breakup can only add to your problems.
– Be happy for your friends and their happiness, this will keep the bitterness from setting in. A positive attitude and happiness in your life will increase the likelihood this will happen for you.
– Don’t say yes to the first person who asks you out just to have a date, make sure you are making better dating choices.
– Don’t jump into another relationship. Give yourself time to heal. Enjoy time with friends and family.
– Let go of the past and don’t get on social media to see their recent posts. Ask yourself why you need to keep stalking him/her.
– Dating to get even with your ex is a waste of time. It prevents you from moving forward. Dating your ex’s friends or taking a date to a bar, restaurant, or hangout the know friends of your ex will be will help deepen the rut you’re digging. Don’t do it.
– Don’t blame everyone else for your failed relationship. You are partly to blame, after all, it was your relationship. Figure out what you did to contribute to the failure and avoid making the same mistake in the future.
– Don’t badmouth your ex in front of your children. If you had children together, remember the pain you are trying to inflict might not ever reach your intended target and hurt the very person you’re trying to recruit.
– Don’t turn to food and alcohol to get better. You might find the results less than optimal. Drowning your sorrows and stuffing yourself full of food is not helpful.