When a relationship falls apart and reaches the end, people can get hurt and become vindictive. Don’t let your ex see your hurt or malicious side. Your best bet is to focus on the positives of the breakup and try to move forward.
We all handle loss, change and, the end of a relationship differently. If your goal is to accept the breakup and move on, there are things you can do to ensure a healthy recovery.
Don’t focus on your ex and the breakup
If that is all you think about and focus on your waste time, energy, and emotions that only heighten the negative emotions. You should take this time to focus on yourself and your wants and needs.
Online stalking your ex is a big no-no
Social media makes it easy to see what your ex is up to, and you can do it from anywhere. Don’t follow your ex online, it is unhealthy for you, a waste of valuable time you could be spending rebuilding your life. Of course, you can do the drive-by and waste more of your precious future, but resist the temptation to do either. Do yourself a favor and remove them from all your social media pages and lose all phone numbers, so you can’t reach out and feel like you’re missing out.
Don’t take it personally
It is easy to blame yourself for the relationship failure. Don’t do that to yourself. You both might have changed, whatever the reason if you could have made it work you would have. Try to remember the things that were wrong that lead to the breakup, and begin placing value in yourself and your happiness. Don’t blame yourself, don’t compare yourself to others. Run your own race, live your own life, and begin to invest in yourself again. You’re worth it. Put a positive spin on why you broke up and how you broke up, and begin to bring closure into your life.
We all have good stuff in our lives; focus on that and the good things in your life, whether it is your family, your friends, or your career. If the bad relationship was holding you back, be thankful you can now begin a fresh start and moving forward. Someday everything will be ok, and you will find happiness again. Try to make each day closer to achieving that goal of being happy again, it is the one thing you can control, work at it.
